So I Googled myself today, like you do, and on the first page…
I don’t actually see a reference to myself on the page…but I was too chicken to click on the links.
It made me wonder, though. I write a lot of sex, and yet I’m not eager to look at online porn. Or, to be honest, any porn. The closest I come are those horrible movies they show late nights on the Sci-Fi Channel…”Femalien” and the like.
I think part of the problem is porn itself. Porn is not romantic. I’ve seen Debbie Does Dallas, I’ve seen Deep Throat—before I knew Linda Lovelace’s story, and I will never watch it again. I’ve seen a few other porno movies whose titles I can’t recall, even one that tried–and succeeded–to be amusing.
But I haven’t seen any porno movies, true porn, that’s romantic. None. I suppose it’s possible that I simply haven’t watched the right ones, but I make no apology for the fact that I refuse to start actively shopping for porn on a regular basis unil I find romantic porn.
It’s always been my contention, though, that if someone made a truly romantic porno film–based, let’s just say, on one of my books, maybe?–women would be much more likely to wach it. Imagine. Your husband (or boyfriend, or whatever) wants to watch porn wth you. You say no. He then pulls out a romantic film, a love story, but with graphic sex scenes instead of soft-focus fade-outs. Perhaps it’s a medieval romance or one set in ancient Rome. Would you watch? I would!
Because heres how this relates to writing, and especially writing erotic romance. I think the reader needs to be emotionally invested in the characters, even a little, in order to enjoy the sex scenes fully. Otherwise, it’s just clinical description. This is one reason why erotic romance presents such a different set of challenges to writing “regular” romance. One isn’t easier or harder than the other, they’re just different.
How do you think most authors do at providing both sexual heat and emotional intensity?
In doing edits for The Black Dragon, I was stunned to see how frankly lame the original sex scene I’d written was. Well, “lame” is rather harsh. It wasn’t lame, it just wasn’t very explicit by any stretch. Compared to what I do now, the physical detail was lacking. There was lots of emotional stuff, lots of thoughts and feelings, but very little turn-you-on detail. I added some, but I’m thinking in the second round of edits I’m going to add more. I want those sex scenes to leap off the page, espeically since there are only three of them. In some of my erotic works I’ve done the “short” scene–where they fall together and lose themselves, or whatever, and that’s all that’s said, simply because the scene follows another, graphic scene, or because a long scene would break the story’s momentum. In TBD, though, where there are only three sex scenes in the whole book, I want to show off. Plus, because that first scene occurs about halfway through the book, the reader is (I hope) quite emotionally invested. They deserve their big payoff.
What do you think? Do you think the longer you have to wait, the better it is, no matter what?