Comments on: Oh My

By: kis

kis — Tue, 31 Oct 2006 22:47:00 +0000

The problem with most porn is that it isn't about lust at all. It's about anatomy and camera angles. You watch enough of it, and the rare actress who isn't faking it really stands out. Does anyone really think the woman who moves her hair out of the way of the camera while she gives some guy a blowjob is really enjoying herself?

It's all directorial priorites and poor acting. Male directors just want to get everyone naked as quickly as possible and see how many improbable positions they can fit into an hour and fifteen minutes. The abysmal acting and unsynchronized voice-over moaning only make it worse.

There was a time when real directors and actors ventured into the dirty little corners of pornoland--think the XXX version of Caligula. The result was pretty good. I can imagine that female-directed porn aimed at a female audience might be ok too, as long as it doesn't sink too deep into schmaltzy romantic drivel.

Me, I'm a big fan of sex up against a back-alley wall (or an office wall, or a stable wall, or over a desk, or on the kitchen floor, etc). Wherever it happens, there has to be a sense of urgency, of tension, of excitement that is just soooo lacking in pornography.

And with erotica, I don't mind some sexual content on the first page. If the writing is good, there will be tension there even if I don't know the character's name. But it's kind of like the opening action teaser of a big movie, or the appetizer in a nine course dinner. Not really necessary, and likely forgotten by the end of the meal.

By: December Quinn

December Quinn — Tue, 24 Oct 2006 22:45:00 +0000

Thanks, Erik! And I do get the best comments–all of you guys are so fun!

I didn’ see my anme, either, Isabella. I don’t know if I’m glad or cheated.

By: Isabella Snow

Isabella Snow — Tue, 24 Oct 2006 16:47:00 +0000

Hmm.. I don't see your name there, but there are a few authors listed.. I ain't clicking those links though.

And I love porn!!

So you gotta know those links scare me.. lol.

By: Erik Ivan James

Erik Ivan James — Tue, 24 Oct 2006 16:44:00 +0000

Good post, December! Good comments too.

By: December Quinn

December Quinn — Tue, 24 Oct 2006 01:41:00 +0000

Ugh, I hate that, Annie! I have it twice in my WIP–one regular first kiss, one more passionate interrupted kiss, and then..the Big Scene. IMO, two or three is the limit.

By: Annie Dean

Annie Dean — Mon, 23 Oct 2006 23:23:00 +0000

I don’t really have a yardstick for measuring when sex should happen, but an author is more likely to lose me by playing coy (with like five scenes of coitus interruptus) than by having the h/h give it up too soon. I get annoyed when there’s a phone call or a pager or a visitor like ten times in the first fifteen chapters. That gets to book-hurling territory and I’ll grumble, “Oh get on with it already.”

As a sidenote I think few authors do a bang up job (pun intended) of making it hot for me. They either go overboard and it veers into purple, they go overly romantic with the euphemisms and I can’t tell who’s doing what or they go ultra-clinical. It’s a tough balance.

By: December Quinn

December Quinn — Mon, 23 Oct 2006 22:04:00 +0000

Hi Michelle! I couldn’t agree more. It’s the romance that makes us ladies hot, not just watching body parts interlock.

BTW, those are some pretty intense nightmares. I suggest several shots of vodka before bed. Helps me.

Cyn, I agree. People don’t wait so long anymore, and I think it’s a shame. Even a few weeks ups the anticipation factor!

I’m telling my daughters they better wait until marriage. I don’t think they really will, but I’m hoping that if I stress the importance of it they’ll at least wait until they’re with someone who cares about them, you know?

By: cyn

cyn — Mon, 23 Oct 2006 21:16:00 +0000

the longer you put it off, the better it is. this doesn’t seem to happen much with anyone but virgins these days. haha! but i’m speaking from a female perspective. imagine a few months of making out, heavy petting and the like before doing “it”. wow. who waits that long these days? pity.

By: Michele Lee

Michele Lee — Mon, 23 Oct 2006 20:24:00 +0000

Porn is not about romance, it’s about pure, red, base, lust. It’s literally about the act, not the people at all. It mind as well just be all peni and vagainas. No brains or people need to be attached. Not that there’s much wrong with this. you know, when you have kids and only the exterior doors have locks there’s very little time for romance.
But you can try the Showtime late night movies, which don’t show anything other than breasts and butt, or Bliss on Oxygen.
What I like it funny porn. Okay, and Weird porn, but that’s usually too bizarre to be turned on by. You have to put too much effort into understanding it.
Porn is for men, and men are turned on by seeing things like nudity and sexual thing. Men almost always need to see something. Just having it implied, or reading erotica doesn’t do much for men because in the end it’s just words. My husband has pointed this out to me as a reason he doesn’t enjoy most fiction. He never does get sucked into the story like I do.

By: December Quinn

December Quinn — Mon, 23 Oct 2006 17:09:00 +0000

Shoot, sorry, Jenn! I emant to say it wasn't work safe. Sorry JTC, too, I know you often check in from your work.

I do agree, JTC...anticipation is part of the fun, some people think the best part. I don't know if I'd go quite that far, but it certainly does make a difference.

I'm emailing you, SW. It's worse. You're not going to believe it, really.

The name is vaguely familiar, Jenn. I'll certainly keep her in mind if ever I have the urge to buy a brown-paper-packaged video!