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		<title>Freedom of Speech</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 10 Jan 2012 12:39:59 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Stace</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>So. Yesterday I ranted a bit, and I&#8217;m going to do it some more now. As with yesterday&#8217;s post, I&#8217;m not entirely sure where this is going to go. As with yesterday&#8217;s post, this is my attempt to get some&#8230;</p>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>So. Yesterday I ranted a bit, and I&#8217;m going to do it some more now. As with yesterday&#8217;s post, I&#8217;m not entirely sure where this is going to go. As with yesterday&#8217;s post, this is my attempt to get some things straight in my head and to explore this subject, so I may be a bit harsh; I may say things as part of playing Devil&#8217;s Advocate; I may go off on little tangents (probably will, because let&#8217;s face it, that&#8217;s what I tend to do).</p>
<p>First, a couple of things I forgot or didn&#8217;t get to say yesterday. First, authors? Don&#8217;t review your own books, either on Amazon or Goodreads or anywhere else. Don&#8217;t rate them on Goodreads, even if your &#8220;review&#8221; says something like, &#8220;Well, I wrote it so obviously I think it&#8217;s good!&#8221; Like that&#8217;s funny or charming or something (hint: it&#8217;s not).</p>
<p>I was going to say that reviewing/rating your own books under your own name just makes you look like a tool, rather than being actually sleazy, but then I realized that your rating shows up as part of the book&#8217;s overall rating; I can think of a couple of books (all by the same author, what a shock) who have pretty decent overall ratings on Goodreads, but then when you look at them you realize that&#8217;s only because the author and his/her (not giving you clues as to who it is) &#8220;agent&#8221; and/or editor have all given the book five stars, whereas the two readers who rated/reviewed it gave it two or three. So, sorry, reviewing/rating your books under your own name is sleazy. Having your agent or editor review/rate them is also sleazy, and honestly, I&#8217;m not aware of any editors with major houses or the big epubs who do so (there could be some, but I&#8217;m not aware of them).</p>
<p>I do have my own books on my Goodreads and LibraryThing &#8220;shelves.&#8221; I didn&#8217;t intend to do so, but both sites said specifically that I should. So I do. I&#8217;m not entirely comfortable with it, but it does seem to be standard and expected. I rarely visit Goodreads, to be honest (more on that in a bit) and as I&#8217;ve said before, I *never* visit/read posts in the &#8220;Terrible Fever&#8221; Goodreads group or the Downside Shelfari group. Those are reader spaces, for you guys to discuss the books; they&#8217;re not for me and I actually think it would be creepy for me to lurk over them watching you all. And might make you feel uncomfortable or inhibited. So I stay away. I believe that&#8217;s the right thing to do.</p>
<p>I don&#8217;t think I have to say that reviewing your own books under a sockpuppet account makes you scum just like pressuring/begging your friends and family to do so does. Anytime you&#8217;re lying to readers, anytime you&#8217;re attempting to jerryrig your reviews or rankings, you&#8217;re doing something unethical. And, you&#8217;ll probably be caught, and that will be bad. <em>Really</em> bad.<br />
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<em>Ask yourself this, before you post something anywhere: Would I say this under my real name? If the answer is no, it&#8217;s probably not a good idea to say it.</em></p>
<p>Also? It&#8217;s totally scuzzy&#8211;I think I mentioned this yesterday&#8211;to send your family/friends/readers to rebut or comment on negative reviews. </p>
<p>My family and friends are expressly forbidden, and have been for years, from ever reviewing or commenting on my work in any way, anywhere online. Period. </p>
<p>Oh, and. Okay. Lots of us writers use pseudonyms online. I don&#8217;t mean a pseudonym like the name we write under, but like to participate in discussions elsewhere. There are a few places I hang out online where I don&#8217;t use my name; I don&#8217;t keep my identity a big secret there, but those are places where I just want to be another reader/fan/whatever, so I use a different name and don&#8217;t generally tell people who I am (although I do if asked; I&#8217;m not a spy or anything, just a writer who wants to be one of the gang). There&#8217;s nothing in the world wrong with this. </p>
<p>What *is* wrong, and I don&#8217;t care how big a name you are or think you are, is when you use that pseudonym to push your own books. Guys, I&#8217;ve actually refrained from recommending my books to people just because I was in my &#8220;secret identity,&#8221; and wanted to avoid even the faintest appearance of sockpuppetry (full disclosure: I did once mention my book, but it was in response to someone asking for a specific recommendation and I genuinely, objectively thought that based on her criteria she&#8217;d like it. And it was one of a half-dozen or so titles I gave her. I still felt weird about it, though, and never did it again). So it drives me nuts when I see someone hiding behind a pseudonym (which at that point really kinda becomes nothing more than a sockpuppet) constantly listing their own books as &#8220;must-reads&#8221; or whatever. Stop it. You&#8217;re not fooling anyone; do you think we don&#8217;t notice that you&#8217;re always recommending that one particular writer? ALWAYS? Do you think we don&#8217;t notice that when you tell us about your career it happens to follow the exact same trajectory as that author you&#8217;re always telling us is Teh Most Awesomest? Do you think we&#8217;re stupid and you&#8217;re just so much cleverer than we are? Because we&#8217;re not, and you&#8217;re not. Seriously, when you do that so often you don&#8217;t even look sleazy, you just look foolish and crazy egotistical.</p>
<p>Now that that&#8217;s out of the way&#8230;let&#8217;s get back to reviews and readers and stuff.</p>
<p>Okay, here&#8217;s the thing. When I was reading the long discussion thread at Goodreads over one of the latest dust-ups, I saw a comment from a reader who said that she only ever reviewed books she likes (I&#8217;m using this as an example but I&#8217;ve seen this exact discussion several times before; it was even mentioned in comments to my previous post).</p>
<p>Another reader replied to say that was scummy and wrong of her, that she was doing people a disservice, and that obviously her reviews weren&#8217;t trustworthy.</p>
<p>Huh?</p>
<p>Now, given that this is a reader-reader issue maybe I shouldn&#8217;t even be commenting on it. But at the same time I believe every reader has the right to say whatever they want and review however they like. And I&#8217;m sorry, but since when is it anyone&#8217;s place to tell the reviewer who only wants to review books she liked that it&#8217;s wrong of her to do so? She&#8217;s entitled to review however she wants. She&#8217;s entitled to decide that books she disliked aren&#8217;t worth reviewing.</p>
<p>I could see the point about the reliability of her reviews had she said she gives everything a good review even if she hated it or didn&#8217;t read it or didn&#8217;t finish it. That&#8217;s lying and it&#8217;s dishonorable (*cough*HarrietKlausner*Cough*), and it means that no, your reviews are not really reliable. (More on this below.) But who are any of us to tell Reader A that she MUST review books she didn&#8217;t like if she doesn&#8217;t want to be seen as somehow worthy of mistrust? No, sorry. If you don&#8217;t want to read a site which only talks about books it likes and ignores those it didn&#8217;t, that&#8217;s fine, but it&#8217;s in no way <em>wrong</em> for anyone to decide they&#8217;d rather spend their time reviewing and talking about books they liked. Who are you to force her to write anything, much less reviews for books she disliked? Who are you to tell her what she is and is not allowed to discuss on her own damn blog, or in her own damn Goodreads account? Who are you to give her shit for the way she relates to books?</p>
<p>Personally, I only rate books I liked on Goodreads, and I&#8217;ll only mention a book here if I like it. Not out of fear or hypocrisy, but because I like to <em>recommend</em> things to my readers. Tastes are subjective; I think it&#8217;s a lot easier for me to say &#8220;This book is kind of like mine, so if you like mine you might very well like it,&#8221; rather than &#8220;This is nothing like mine so you won&#8217;t,&#8221; because how the hell do I know what else my readers might like? I like my Goodreads account to be a list of books I enjoy and/or find useful (in the case of nonfiction), so if I&#8217;m asked for a recommendation I can go there and see a list of books worthy of that (I don&#8217;t keep many books on my list there, but that&#8217;s because of time restrictions). That&#8217;s my choice and my right, just as it is the right of Laura Reader to decide that she only wants to spend her valuable time writing about books which gave her pleasure rather than books she found boring, stupid, infuriating, or insipid.</p>
<p>There are reviewers who say things like &#8220;Overall I didn&#8217;t like this, but it had these good points,&#8221; or whatever else because they want to find the positive in everything, and that&#8217;s fine too. People are entitled to write reviews with an eye toward being positive if they want, too; there are many people out there who think there&#8217;s too much negativity, or that it&#8217;s not their place to be too negative, and they&#8217;re entitled to that; you may not like it and you may decide not to pay attention to their reviews, but again, it&#8217;s not fair to attack or berate them for doing so.</p>
<p>Personally, while I&#8217;ll happily read and trust a site that only reviews books it likes, I won&#8217;t read and trust a site that only ever gives positive reviews despite what they thought of the book. Again, if that&#8217;s the kind of site you want to run that&#8217;s your choice and no one can or should tell you it&#8217;s wrong, but I definitely think that if that&#8217;s your editorial decision you should make that clear; don&#8217;t pretend to readers that you&#8217;re objective and honest when you&#8217;re deliberately misleading them about the quality of certain books. If you&#8217;re playing the &#8220;Let&#8217;s pass this around to every reviewer until we can find one who doesn&#8217;t puke&#8221; game, you&#8217;re not being honest with your readership. (I think you should warn them, but then I also think they&#8217;re smart enough to figure it out on their own pretty damn fast.)</p>
<p>And speaking as an author on this point, it means your review is &#8220;worthless&#8221; when it comes to blurbs or whatever; sorry, but if your site loves every shitty book it comes across, I&#8217;m not going to be that thrilled that it loved mine and I&#8217;m not going to quote you on my website because any fool can see it&#8217;s a &#8220;Send us anything and we&#8217;ll give it a good review&#8221; type of site. And, when I see quotes from you on the websites of other writers, I&#8217;m probably going to assume those writers haven&#8217;t been around for long, haven&#8217;t gotten many reviews at all, or&#8211;more damningly&#8211;haven&#8217;t gotten any positive ones. (And for those writers getting upset now and wondering how you&#8217;re supposed to get reviews from sites people respect, or saying your publisher Love&#8217;s Beautiful Dream sent your book to Good Reviews R Us and nowhere else so what are you supposed to do? Publishing with a house people respect is generally the first step. Stop handing your work to every fly-by-night amateur with no experience and some publishing software and you&#8217;ll find legit sites will be more likely to review you. Sorry to be harsh, but it&#8217;s true.)</p>
<p>This also goes if your review site is littered with typos or all of your reviews sound like those fake 5-star Amazon reviews written by the author&#8217;s best friend: &#8220;You won&#8217;t be able to put it down!&#8230;.You&#8217;ll be so caught up in the beautiful story, the author did such a good job of making you feel like you&#8217;re right in the story with the characters&#8230;&#8230;I can&#8217;t wait for more buy this author. I really recommend this story, it kept me guessing and on the edge of my seat with its excellent plot and great characters and story&#8230;..definitaly by this story you won&#8217;t regret it!!!&#8221; (I don&#8217;t know what the connection is between sockpuppets and pseudo-ellipsis abuse, but it&#8217;s there.) </p>
<p>Yes, I&#8217;m aware that as a writer my opinion of review sites doesn&#8217;t matter (beyond whether or not I&#8217;d quote you on my site). Reviews are not for me and your site is not for me. I could say, &#8220;But I&#8217;m a reader, too,&#8221; but let&#8217;s face it. We all know that&#8217;s bullshit, isn&#8217;t it? Not that I read&#8211;I read as much as I can, I love to read and always have&#8211;but that I can in any way present myself to others as one of you, just a reader reading books here, ho de do, don&#8217;t mind us readers. I can&#8217;t do that. I can&#8217;t do that because I&#8217;m no longer able to fully and completely put myself in the &#8220;not a writer but a reader&#8221; mindset, and because you won&#8217;t accept me as &#8220;not a writer but a reader&#8221; anyway.</p>
<p>And that&#8217;s what I&#8217;ll discuss tomorrow.</p>
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		<title>ENTANGLED Anthology is available!</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Sep 2011 16:32:08 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Stace</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.staciakane.net/2011/09/08/entangled-anthology-is-available/entangled-350x525/" rel="attachment wp-att-2453"><img src="http://www.staciakane.net/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/entangled-350X525-200x300.jpg" alt="" title="entangled-350X525" width="200" height="300" class="alignright size-medium wp-image-2453" /></a>Some of you may already have heard of the ENTANGLED anthology; eleven short stories (well, ten shorts and a novella) by <a href="http://www.allisonbrennan.com">Allison Brennan</a>, <a href="http://www.readmistyevans.com/">Misty Evans</a>, <a href="http://www.jenniferestep.com/">Jennifer Estep</a>, <a href="http://www.edieramer.com">Edie Ramer</a>, <a href="http://www.nancyhaddock.com">Nancy Haddock</a>, <a href="http://www.dalemayer.com">Dale Mayer</a>, <a&#8230;</p>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.staciakane.net/2011/09/08/entangled-anthology-is-available/entangled-350x525/" rel="attachment wp-att-2453"><img src="http://www.staciakane.net/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/entangled-350X525-200x300.jpg" alt="" title="entangled-350X525" width="200" height="300" class="alignright size-medium wp-image-2453" /></a>Some of you may already have heard of the ENTANGLED anthology; eleven short stories (well, ten shorts and a novella) by <a href="http://www.allisonbrennan.com">Allison Brennan</a>, <a href="http://www.readmistyevans.com/">Misty Evans</a>, <a href="http://www.jenniferestep.com/">Jennifer Estep</a>, <a href="http://www.edieramer.com">Edie Ramer</a>, <a href="http://www.nancyhaddock.com">Nancy Haddock</a>, <a href="http://www.dalemayer.com">Dale Mayer</a>, <a href="http://www.cynthiaeden.com">Cynthia Eden</a>, <a href="http://michellemiles.net/">Michelle Miles</a>, <a href="http://www.loribrighton.com/">Lori Brighton</a>, <a href="http://www.lizkreger.com/">Liz Kreger</a>, and <a href="http://www.michellediener.com/">Michelle Diener</a>, with all profits going to benefit the <a href="http://www.bcrfcure.org/">Breast Cancer Research Foundation</a>.</p>
<p>Oh, and a Foreword by, well, <a href="http://www.staciakane.net">me</a>. </p>
<p>Here&#8217;s a little Q&#038;A Misty Evans sent me:</p>
<p>Q: Tell us about Entangled.</p>
<p>A: Entangled includes ten suspense-filled paranormal stories from authors Lori Brighton, Michelle Diener, Cynthia Eden, Jennifer Estep, Misty Evans, Nancy Haddock, Liz Kreger, Dale Mayer, Michelle Miles, and Edie Ramer, plus a brand new Seven Deadly Sins novella by Allison Brennan. Stacia Kane contributed the foreword and the book’s formatting and cover art were also donated to the project by Lori Devoti and Laura Morrigan. All proceeds from the sale of Entangled will be donated to the Breast Cancer Research Foundation (BCRF).</p>
<p>Q: Are the stories connected? </p>
<p>A: The anthology has a Halloween theme, so the stories all have Halloween elements in them.</p>
<p>Q: Are they all one genre? </p>
<p>A: All the stories paranormal, but some are heavier on suspense, while others have more romance. We even have a young adult story by Jennifer Estep that’s related to her Mythos Academy series.</p>
<p>Q: How did you all come up with the decision to do this book? Who initiated it and how did you all get together?</p>
<p>A: Edie Ramer and Misty Evans wanted to do a collaboration together, and over three or four emails earlier this year, they decided to do a paranormal anthology of short stories and have the proceeds go to breast cancer. They invited authors whose books they read and enjoyed and the response was overwhelmingly positive.</p>
<p>Q: Tell us more about the Breast Cancer Research Foundation.</p>
<p>A: BCRF-funded research has helped save lives and improved the quality of care and rate of survival for tens of thousands of breast cancer patients in the past decade. Their research has revealed that the &#8220;cure&#8221; is a mosaic made up of as many approaches to diagnosing, treating, preventing and surviving as there are different types of breast cancer. The anthology is also a mosaic made up of many stories donated for this worthwhile cause.</p>
<p>Q: Is there a time limit on purchasing Entangled so the proceeds go to the BCRF?</p>
<p>A: Entangled will available for at least a year and all proceeds will go to BCRF, no matter when it’s purchased. After a year, if it’s still selling well, we’ll keep it available, and again, all proceeds will go to BCRF.</p>
<p>Q: How much will the ebook cost?</p>
<p>A: Entangled will be discounted to $2.99 during September and October in honor of Breast Cancer Awareness month. After that the price will go up to $3.99. For stories of this caliber, it’s a fantastic deal at either price.</p>
<p>Q: Can people donate to the cause even if they can’t or don’t want to purchase Entangled?</p>
<p>A: Absolutely. Go to  http://www.bcrfcure.org to make a donation in your name, or in the name of someone you know who’s been touched by breast cancer. </p>
<p>The book&#8217;s <a href="http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/12373508-entangled">Goodreads page is here</a>, with buylinks etc., and in addition to the other reviews there&#8217;s a nice thorough one <a href="http://www.coffeetablereviews.net/2011/09/arc-review-entangled-anthology.html#more">here at Coffee Table Reviews</a>.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve never written a Foreword before, and it was a huge honor for me to be invited to do so, especially for such an important cause. So I really, really hope you guys all decide to buy the book! </p>
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		<title>Self-exposure II</title>
		<link>http://www.staciakane.net/2011/07/26/self-exposure-ii/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 26 Jul 2011 15:46:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Stace</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>(This is a continuation of <a href="http://www.staciakane.net/2011/07/25/self-exposure/">yesterday&#8217;s post</a>, for those who haven&#8217;t seen it.)</p>
<p>So anyway. Yes. I&#8217;ve seen lots of people being very nasty about Amy Winehouse.</p>
<p>But here&#8217;s what today&#8217;s focus is. I&#8217;ve also seen so many comments&#8230;</p>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>(This is a continuation of <a href="http://www.staciakane.net/2011/07/25/self-exposure/">yesterday&#8217;s post</a>, for those who haven&#8217;t seen it.)</p>
<p>So anyway. Yes. I&#8217;ve seen lots of people being very nasty about Amy Winehouse.</p>
<p>But here&#8217;s what today&#8217;s focus is. I&#8217;ve also seen so many comments about the music and the lyrics, and the fact that Amy kept fighting, kept putting herself out there. How much it mattered to people, how much seeing their feelings mirrored mattered to them and how much it helped them when they were feeling down. And it made me start thinking about what art is, how it can touch people, and what the responsibility of the artist is, if any. </p>
<p>Obviously in this I can only speak for myself. I certainly can&#8217;t call myself a great artist; I do the best I can yes, and I work as hard as I can to put something of myself, something as important and meaningful as I can, into my work. I try to make it matter; certainly it matters to me. Regular readers may recall (alliteration is fun!) that I blogged about this whole genre-fiction/personal-investment-in-art thing before, <a href="http://www.staciakane.net/2010/07/13/but-is-it-art/">here</a> and <a href="http://www.staciakane.net/2010/07/15/what-are-we-afraid-of/">here</a>.</p>
<p>You guys may also recall that several months ago I decided to stop writing about writing/publishing&#8211;to step back on the blog in general, really&#8211;after something I meant as a general piece of take-it-or-leave-it advice, a small part of a much bigger cautionary tale about the realities of the internet and being published in a world where the internet exists and you&#8217;re expected to use it, was taken so much more strongly, so much more intensely, than I intended, and I became the center of something of a kerfuffle for writing what so many of the people who disapproved of what I wrote also said and have said: Be careful what you say online, because the internet is public and whatever you say can and will be misinterpreted, talked about, picked on, and dissected, and you personally will be harshly judged and criticized for it. </p>
<p>Anyway. The response I got shocked me; I was attacked on blogs and websites, I was attacked on Twitter, I was attacked in email. My words were mischaracterized to the point of being unrecognizable. I was made fun of and called names. A piece of advice I gave specifically to aspiring writers was taken as applying to readers and reader-reviewers, which especially shocked me since I&#8217;ve always been very vocally supportive (to the point where it&#8217;s cost me friendships) of the rights of readers to say whatever they like about whatever book(s) they read, and had tried in my post to make very clear that I wasn&#8217;t speaking about them and I certainly wasn&#8217;t saying anyone didn&#8217;t have the right to say whatever they wanted about a book.</p>
<p>Long story short (too late) I was stunned and hurt, and frankly, I&#8217;ve been stunned and hurt by the internet a few too many times in the last year or so; not by comments about my books but by comments about me personally. It&#8217;s frankly terrifying to find people you don&#8217;t know, who don&#8217;t know you, making fun of you on Twitter and inviting tons of other people who you also don&#8217;t know and who don&#8217;t know you to join in. It&#8217;s awful to get nasty comments and emails not about what you said or wrote, but about what they were told you said or wrote. It&#8217;s awful to ask a few innocent (you think) questions of someone, and find people calling you names and talking about what a huge bitch you are and how everyone hates you because of it. It&#8217;s not fun to make a general comment somewhere, something that would have passed without comment a year or two before, but for which you are suddenly accused of massive ego and arrogance. It&#8217;s upsetting. It&#8217;s painful. I&#8217;m just one person, one who fucks up on occasion, one who&#8217;s acted on impulse and later regretted it, one who&#8217;s made mistakes, one whose words can be misinterpreted no matter how clearly I and hundreds of others think they&#8217;re phrased. One who isn&#8217;t perfect just like none of us are perfect. </p>
<p>It just wasn&#8217;t worth it, to keep being attacked like that. It made me rethink a lot of things; it made me decide to take a step back, because I was tired of feeling like there was a big target on my back and people were just waiting for me to say something else they could pick on and attack me over (note: I doubt they actually were, but it felt that way). I was tired of being made to feel bad about myself, of seeing people discuss how I was a bitch, an asshole, an idiot, an unprofessional cunt with a terrible reputation (no one I actually work with or have ever worked with or who even knows anyone I work with or have worked with said this, by the way; I have to admit the source on that one made me roll my eyes). To be perfectly honest, I&#8217;ve had a difficult time writing anything this last year or so, and part of me wonders if that isn&#8217;t because subconsciously I&#8217;m tanking myself so I don&#8217;t have to go through all of that again.</p>
<p>But seeing all of the comments from people, from other women, this weekend about how much it meant to them to see another woman putting herself out there, being herself no matter what kinds of shit she got for it, about how that inspired them and gave them strength&#8230;that&#8217;s made me rethink things a bit. </p>
<p>Certainly I&#8217;m not a big star. I don&#8217;t have one-eighth the following or audience Amy Winehouse had. Not one-tenth of one-eighth. I&#8217;m pretty much nobody (which frankly makes the overblown responses to me doubly confusing; I see bigger sellers&#8211;bigger names with bigger followings&#8211;than me say all kinds of things that go basically unnoticed, it seems. I certainly see male writers saying whatever they like and not being slammed all over the internet for it). I still don&#8217;t understand why anyone really gives a shit what I have to say, why anyone needs to pass it on and gossip about it. If you disagree with me that&#8217;s fine, but why the attacks? Why not just shrug and go about your business? Why am I so important to you&#8211;why is anyone so important to you&#8211;that you need to make a huge issue out of it? I&#8217;m not Glenn Beck making <a href="http://jezebel.com/5824656/glenn-beck-says-norway-shooting-victims-are-like-hitler-youth">disgusting comments comparing the murdered children in Norway to Hitler Youth</a> and I&#8217;m not anyone with any real influence in policy-making or decision-making in any organization or industry; I&#8217;m just a writer talking about my experience(s), or asking a few questions, or making a comment about something, while freely admitting they may not be the same as the experiences of others, explaining the reasoning behind the questions, and acknowledging that others may have different opinions, and nothing I say is that big a deal.</p>
<p>But maybe I don&#8217;t have to be some sort of huge name to still make a difference. I started doing things like posting at Absolute Write&#8217;s Bewares forum (years ago now) because I wanted to help aspiring writers avoid some of the traps I&#8217;ve seen others fall into, and avoid the traps I myself fell into early in my career. I&#8217;ve tried to take a stand on certain issues, and step into certain issues, because I always figured, you know, I&#8217;d rather they attack me than someone else. If Puny Epublisher A is going to start making their ridiculous &#8220;blackball&#8221; threats, I&#8217;d rather they make them at me (to whom their threats mean absolutely nothing) than someone just starting out who doesn&#8217;t actually understand how ludicrous those threats are, or who might be genuinely hurt or scared. And I still feel that way, even after seeing those comments about me, even after seeing my name dragged through the mud by someone with a personal vendetta because I dared to ask a couple of questions. Yeah, I&#8217;ve gotten some nasty emails in the past year or so. I&#8217;ve also gotten hundreds of wonderful emails from readers who love my books, to whom my books mean something. I&#8217;ve gotten dozens of wonderful emails from other writers who I helped. </p>
<p>So here&#8217;s what this enormous long post is actually about, if anyone is still reading. I&#8217;m thinking I need to put my money back where my mouth is, and quit trying to protect myself. I&#8217;m thinking that if I expect or want my work to mean anything to anyone I need to put myself out there, and keep doing it; I need to be myself and keep making it mean something. I&#8217;m thinking that maybe if more of us do that we can build our own little world, we can create something strong and good, and we can bring a little more happiness and acceptance along with us. A little more understanding and forgiveness.</p>
<p>The thing is, I see this blog as a way to communicate with my readers&#8211;those who&#8217;ve read my books and came here to learn more about them, and maybe a bit more about me, if they want. I think my books, especially the Downside books, have a lot of me in them already, really; if you&#8217;ve read them you probably already know something about me, you probably already know <em>me</em> to some extent. I think if you like the books chances are you&#8217;ll like me; I think if you don&#8217;t like them chances are you probably won&#8217;t, and if you disapprove of them you probably disapprove of me, too.</p>
<p>But everything I write here is addressed to my readers, really. Maybe that&#8217;s the wrong way to look at it; maybe I should be worrying about those people who stumble across the blog and see something about me or the books for the first time. It probably is the wrong way to look at it, to assume that the people reading your blog are already familiar with your work. Certainly thinking of my blog as a place where I communicate with people who are already aware of my work has gotten me into trouble before.</p>
<p>So what do I owe those readers&#8211;what do I owe you, when it comes to the blog, and what do you want to see? What do you think the purpose of a writer&#8217;s blog is, and what do you expect from it?</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>Amy Winehouse died.</p>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Amy Winehouse died.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m sure you all know that. I&#8217;m sure this is only one of thousands of posts about her and her death that will be posted today, that have already been posted. But I want to say something about it; I need to say something about it, so I&#8217;m going to.</p>
<p>Amy&#8217;s music wasn&#8217;t the type I normally listen to, but I honestly loved Back to Black. I loved the sixties-esque, bluesy feel of it. I thought her lyrics were stunning and gritty and dark and beautiful, and her voice incredible. And today&#8211;all weekend&#8211;I&#8217;ve watched other people&#8211;other <em>women</em>&#8211;talk about those lyrics especially, how it felt to them like Amy really opened herself up, really exposed something of herself and how much that mattered to them, and why it mattered to them. They talk about dark times in their lives when those lyrics and that music helped them and spoke to them and made them feel not so alone. They talk about what a tragedy this is, how much they wanted another album, how deeply they identified with the troubled soul laid bare for them in song. </p>
<p>I&#8217;m also seeing other people&#8211;mostly men; some women, yes, but more men&#8211;talk about how they&#8217;re not surprised, how Amy deserved to die, how she was a junkie slag, how we&#8217;re all stupid if we didn&#8217;t expect this and stupid for caring to begin with. Oh, and of course there&#8217;s a healthy dose of &#8220;Kids died in Norway so how dare you people care about this when something actually important has just happened,&#8221; as if people can&#8217;t care about both, or as if no one is allowed to mourn the loss of someone who touched their lives because another tragedy with a bigger body count has taken place elsewhere. Like if your grandparent died on 9/11 you shouldn&#8217;t have cared or something. Along with that comes quite a bit of &#8220;Those kids in Norway didn&#8217;t deserve to die and Amy did&#8221; or &#8220;those kids in Norway had futures and Amy pissed hers away.&#8221; </p>
<p>(This post isn&#8217;t about the tragedy in Norway, and for the record I am horrified and saddened and deeply troubled by it.)</p>
<p>I find a number of things troubling here, and am kind of struggling to articulate all of my thoughts and feelings on it. I&#8217;m troubled at the loss of someone with talent. I&#8217;m troubled at the loss of someone who was clearly in a lot of pain. I&#8217;m troubled by the callousness of so many of the responses (just, as it must be said, I am by the callous responses many people make anytime any kind of death is reported in the news). </p>
<p>I find myself thinking back to when Kurt Cobain died. I personally never cared for Kurt Cobain or his music; in fact I strongly disliked both. But I remember well the way his addiction was handled in the press, and I remember that the response to it was one of sadness and concern, the response to his death one of shock and mourning. I remember how the public discourse seemed so much to be about worry and support. And now I remember the response to Amy&#8217;s addiction was scorn and disgust, and the response to her death&#8211;not everywhere, it must be said&#8211;seems to be more of the same, with a healthy dollop of &#8220;she deserved it.&#8221; I don&#8217;t remember people calling Cobain an ugly whore because of his addictions, or discussing how if he touched them they&#8217;d want to bathe with bleach, or wondering why anyone in their right minds would want to be anywhere near him. I don&#8217;t recall, when River Phoenix died, people saying he deserved it. So why the vitriol against Amy Winehouse? Is it easier to dismiss and shame her because Ladies Don&#8217;t Do Such Things? Why is it okay for talented men to be fucked up, but talented women aren&#8217;t allowed? Why are men with addiction problems forgiven and hoped for, but women are condemned?</p>
<p>For every person discussing what a vile person Charlie Sheen is and has become, there are many willing to pay huge amounts of money to see him ramble. And that&#8217;s <em>now</em>, after the shit around him finally reached an un-ignorable level. Let&#8217;s not forget that Charlie&#8217;s had addiction issues for years; let&#8217;s not forget how many women have accused him of domestic violence. How much shit did we hear about him when those incidents happened? It was a quick news story that then disappeared, and when his name came up we didn&#8217;t hear much about it. If it was mentioned it was in a cheery &#8220;Those problems were totally overblown and are behind him now&#8221; sort of way. He was called a &#8220;partier&#8221; and a &#8220;lothario.&#8221; Now how many times in the last couple of years did you see an article about Amy that didn&#8217;t focus on her addiction problems or mention the violence in her relationship with her husband in a snide and condescending manner? How many comments to those articles didn&#8217;t focus&#8211;in Charlie&#8217;s case&#8211;on how much the commenter hoped his troubles really were behind him, and how many of the comments in Amy&#8217;s case weren&#8217;t about how ugly and skanky she was? How many times was Amy&#8217;s behavior chuckled about as if it was just normal and fine, how many times was she fondly called a &#8220;party girl?&#8221;</p>
<p>Googling things like &#8220;Amy Winhouse slut,&#8221; &#8220;Amy Winehouse slag,&#8221; and &#8220;Amy Winehouse disgusting&#8221; brings up millions and millions of hits all about&#8211;yes&#8211;how Amy was a slut, a slag, and disgusting. &#8220;Amy Winehouse disgusting&#8221; brought up over nine million hits, largely Facebook groups, blogs, videos, websites, whatever, devoted to how disgusting Amy is. &#8220;Charlie Sheen disgusting&#8221; brings up two million, and even on the first page you can see the difference; they&#8217;re calling his behavior disgusting, not him, or they&#8217;re quoting Denise Richards. I realize doing a few Google searches is hardly a scientific study, but I do think it&#8217;s telling.</p>
<p>Sure, there&#8217;s a difference. Charlie&#8217;s fame didn&#8217;t come from singing about/talking about drugs and alcohol. I know that, and I know that&#8217;s part of the response I&#8217;ll get about this post. I guess the implication there is that&#8211;my old favorite&#8211;Amy shouldn&#8217;t have mentioned it if she didn&#8217;t want to be judged, and Amy asked for it when she sang about things that had meaning for her. Of course that can&#8217;t really be argued with; every artist knows that creating art for public consumption means opening oneself up to public criticism. That&#8217;s the name of the game, and of course everyone has a right to their own reactions to things and to express those reactions. My comments or concerns aren&#8217;t about that so much as the fact that we seem to be much gentler and more forgiving when it&#8217;s a man whose problems we&#8217;re discussing rather than a woman. (It&#8217;s not just publicly either; when I asked about this online I had a girl who&#8217;d entered AA at a young age remark on how different were the reactions she got from the reactions the men she knew in recovery got. They were tortured and cool; she was a dirty slut.)</p>
<p>(We can say the same thing about Britney Spears, actually, a young woman who had a public breakdown while we all watched. When Britney was a sexy virgin everyone loved her; the minute she gained a few pounds and showed evidence of stress people started stoning her in the public square. Part of this is simply the way of the world these days. As I said Friday, it feels like our culture has devolved to the point where other people aren&#8217;t seen or treated as human anymore, but merely artificial constructs created for our entertainment, and we delight in going online to say whatever clever little cruelty we&#8217;ve invented in our vicious little heads, then sitting back smiling at our own pithy disregard for other people&#8217;s feelings. After all, we&#8217;re perfect, aren&#8217;t we, so obviously anyone dealing with problems we don&#8217;t ourselves deal with or not living their lives the exact same way we do are inferior in some way, and thus deserving of our scorn. I digress.)</p>
<p>This is getting very long, so I&#8217;m going to hold off on the second part and post it tomorrow. It&#8217;s about my own feelings about blogging and putting things out there, and all of that. So for now&#8230;that&#8217;s all. </p>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>On Tuesday we discussed whether or not writing was art, and how much of ourselves writers should put into their work. And it kind of struck me, as the discussion ran along similar lines at Romance Divas, as I was&#8230;</p>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>On Tuesday we discussed whether or not writing was art, and how much of ourselves writers should put into their work. And it kind of struck me, as the discussion ran along similar lines at Romance Divas, as I was writing the post, and as I was preparing this one, that if we&#8217;re going to accept books as art and writers as artists&#8230;are writers the only artists who are regularly expected to completely distance themselves from their art? To act as if it has nothing to do with them?</p>
<p>I think this perhaps happens a bit more in genre fiction. I do believe there&#8217;s a sense that literary fiction is more artistic, that it&#8217;s deeper and more expressive or whatever. I think literary fiction writers are allowed to &#8220;get away with&#8221; stuff genre fiction writers could never even attempt.</p>
<p>But why is that? Is it because we think genre fiction is easier to write? Anyone who&#8217;s tried to write it can tell you it&#8217;s not. Is it because we think since the stories have certain general tropes that they&#8217;re not as original, or again, that they&#8217;re easy to write? Maybe. Maybe there is a sense out there that genre fiction isn&#8217;t art because we&#8217;re just putting a bunch of elements together in the same way as everyone else does, and that it doesn&#8217;t require any real depth from the writer. Which, as we discussed a bit on Tuesday, I think is frankly bullshit. In order to create a fully fleshed-out character you have to do some digging. In order to create a real and complex world you need to do that. If you want to make your story mean anything to readers, elicit any emotion in readers, you need to elicit that emotion in yourself, which means digging deep and&#8211;again&#8211;being honest. You can&#8217;t hide or lie to readers in your work.</p>
<p>But I do think there&#8217;s a weird kind of pressure on genre fiction writers to not let on that they see themselves or think of themselves as artists. There&#8217;s a definite pressure to act like their art means nothing to them, like it&#8217;s an entity completely separate from them.</p>
<p>Think of it this way. If a painter has a gallery show, and a critic ravages his work, does anyone frown and kick up a fuss if the artist gets upset about it? Does anyone remind him that reviews don&#8217;t exist to make him feel better, but to inform art lovers whether or not his work is worth their time? Not as far as I know. People expect the artist to be upset about terrible reviews. They expect him to be temperamental; hell, we all know what the phrase &#8220;artistic temperament&#8221; means, don&#8217;t we?</p>
<p>Now, I am NOT, absolutely NOT, implying in any way that reviewers don&#8217;t have the right to say whatever they want about books, or that reviews aren&#8217;t for readers and not writers&#8211;they absolutely are&#8211;or that writers should be allowed to freak out all over the internet and threaten people or name crack whore characters after people who gave them bad reviews or whatever. No, no, no, I&#8217;m not saying that at all, not one bit; you all know how I feel about that. This post isn&#8217;t about reviewers or reviews, except insomuch as they <em>can</em> be another example of what I feel is the expectation that genre fiction writers not consider themselves artists, not think or talk about themselves as artists, and not act as though their art is important to them. Like caring about your work has become synonymous somehow with freak-out rants and threats, instead of just&#8230;caring about your work. I&#8217;m not implying in any way that this sort of pressure comes solely from reviewers or readers, either; it comes from other writers just as much if not more. </p>
<p>Let&#8217;s take the &#8220;book as baby&#8221; cliche. Now, I am 100% in favor of the &#8220;Your book is NOT your baby,&#8221; reply to that one. I&#8217;ve had two babies. I&#8217;ve written over a dozen novels. I can tell you they&#8217;re entirely different.</p>
<p>And yes, you should be able to distance yourself from your work to some extent. Your work <em>isn&#8217;t</em> you. People are going to have differing opinions about your work; some may love it, some may hate it. Just like some people like you and some people hate you, and we try to learn from an early age that a lot of peoples&#8217; opinions just don&#8217;t matter, that the only people whose opinions we should care about are our families and close friends, our bosses, whatever. You know what I mean.</p>
<p>But at the same time, as we discussed a bit on Tuesday, when you write you do put a lot of yourself into the work. And a lot of people will decide from that work that they can judge or define you as a person; that they somehow know you because they&#8217;ve read your books. And as I said, maybe they do. I don&#8217;t know what people think of me after reading my books, or what sort of person they think I am, or what clues to that they&#8217;ve found in my work. And this sort of judgment has always taken place, and still takes place, everywhere from the largest newspaper in the country to the smallest review blog. People always want to analyze the writer through his or her work, and they always want to analyze the work by connecting it to what they know of the writer. That&#8217;s normal; it&#8217;s just the way it goes. But again, that seems to be the case for literary fiction and not genre fiction.</p>
<p>I don&#8217;t believe genre fiction is any less artistic than literary fiction. I don&#8217;t believe genre fiction writers put any less of themselves into their work or expose themselves any less, at least not good genre fiction writers. I&#8217;m tired of fantasy or science fiction or romance being treated like they&#8217;re not &#8220;real&#8221; books. But I also wonder, at what point does that become, not a self-fulfilling prophecy, but one which we ourselves contribute to?</p>
<p>See, every time we as genre fiction writers huff indignantly that our work isn&#8217;t that special to us, that it&#8217;s not our baby, that it&#8217;s not ourselves, maybe we contribute to the idea that genre fiction isn&#8217;t art and shouldn&#8217;t be treated/considered as such. Maybe we contribute to the idea that we haven&#8217;t put anything of ourselves into the work, that we haven&#8217;t actually written anything of depth or truth.</p>
<p>It comes into the &#8220;professionalism&#8221; argument as well. We&#8217;re all so worried about being professional, about being easy to work with and seeing our work as a commodity and ourselves as commodities and all of that&#8230;have we become so focused on publishing as a business that we&#8217;ve forgotten about the magic of it? About the art? Have we tried so hard to be seen as professionals, not as silly women writing silly things or whatever, that we&#8217;ve stripped away some of the joy, and turned art into drudgery? We don&#8217;t want to say our work matters to us because that&#8217;s not a professional attitude; but you tell me in what other profession people are expected not to care about their work? Why can&#8217;t we be professional and still deeply invested in what we do?</p>
<p>It seems sometimes as if that attitude, the &#8220;Oh, my work is just what I do for a living, it doesn&#8217;t really mean that much to me, I&#8217;m totally cool, yo,&#8221; attitude, is expected of us. And I&#8217;m not sure why. Is it because we do see the occasional stunning online meltdown, with ranting and name-calling and &#8220;Wicca curses&#8221; and the ever-popular &#8220;I&#8217;d like to see <em>you</em> write a book, mean girl!&#8221; and we all want to distance ourselves from that as much as possible? Maybe. Is it because in some ways genre fiction feels more like a popularity contest than literary fiction, by which I mean we&#8217;re expected to network with our readers and interact with them; we&#8217;re expected to be accessible and friendly and open, in a way I don&#8217;t think litfic writers are? (I could be totally wrong about that, it&#8217;s just the impression I get and something I&#8217;ve noticed). Litfic writers get on Oprah; genre fiction writers get on Twitter.</p>
<p>I love interacting with readers, I honestly do. I don&#8217;t mind the expectation that I promote and Tweet and blog and all of that other stuff, because I enjoy doing all of that. But again, I wonder if the desire to be liked by readers, the desire to be popular, to not offend them, to make them want to support us, has made us deny our art? Has made us put it down or act like it&#8217;s nothing special or important in order to seem like just one of the gals, as it were? If we say our work is important, or imply that we&#8217;ve done something special that only we can do (by which I mean expressing our own individual truth and telling our own individual story, not writing in general; certainly neither I nor any of my friends are the only people who can write) then we&#8217;re not implying to our readers that we think we&#8217;re better than them. We&#8217;re equalizing with them. We&#8217;re being careful not to let a hint of ego or arrogance leak into the air around us, because if they think we&#8217;re an asshole they might not buy our books. Hell, even just talking about what our goals were or what we hoped to accomplish with our books can be seen as pretentious or entitled or whatever else.</p>
<p>And I do think that&#8217;s part of it as well. Sometimes it feels as thought the denial of genre fiction as art is really writers being told to get the hell over themselves, they only wrote a fantasy novel, you know?</p>
<p>I admit part of that is true. As proud as I am of the Downside books and as much of myself as I put into them, I don&#8217;t think they&#8217;re WAR AND PEACE. I know they&#8217;re not. </p>
<p>But they <em>are</em> art. They are <em>my</em> art. They are an expression of something deep inside me and the way I see the world. That&#8217;s what art is; the expression of something to elicit an emotional reaction, remember?</p>
<p>I&#8217;m happy to distance myself from that art when necessary; I don&#8217;t show up screaming on review blogs if someone didn&#8217;t love my work. I don&#8217;t reply to Amazon reviews or whatever. That&#8217;s not my place. I will freely admit that my books are not my babies, and I will let them go, and let people interpret them as they may. All of that is fine, and expected, and right.</p>
<p>But what I will not do any longer is pretend that my books aren&#8217;t part of me, and that they don&#8217;t matter, and that they aren&#8217;t art. Because they are. </p>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This is something I&#8217;ve been thinking of for a while, and have wanted to post about for a while, too. It&#8217;s probably the first post of a few, and I warn you, I may ramble a bit.</p>
<p>A few weeks ago over on the <a href="http://forums.romancedivas.com">Romance Divas forum</a> a discussion was started about honesty in your writing, and what that means. It moved on into discussions of art and connection to your work as art, which I&#8217;m also going to discuss. So basically we&#8217;re going to have a big mishmash of Stacia&#8217;s Deep Thoughts about writing, which will hopefully be fun for everyone, but of course we&#8217;ll see, won&#8217;t we?</p>
<p>Anyway. The initial question, posted by the lovely and talented <a href="http://www.katepearce.com">Kate Pearce</a>, was whether or not we, as writers, compromise ourselves&#8211;change what we want to write&#8211;in order to sell the work or make it &#8220;acceptable&#8221; to a particular audience; do we stop ourselves from writing things readers might react badly to. Keeping in mind we&#8217;re discussing genre fiction, and genre fiction has certain conventions and reader expectations. All of which are, of course, perfectly fine; readers are entitled to expect the book they pick up will be what the cover and bookstore shelving or whatever promises them it will be.</p>
<p>But at what point do we stop writing what we want to write in order to be successful? At what point do we suffer for refusing to do so?</p>
<p>The thing is, your writing should excite you. Not &#8216;excite&#8221; as discussed in the Strumpet series, lol (although sometimes it should, depending on what you&#8217;re writing), but excite as in fire you up intellectually and creatively. I firmly believe that if what you&#8217;re writing doesn&#8217;t do that, the reader will sense it. The writing will be flat. The story will seem cliche. And frankly, a flat, cliche story stands very little chance of selling (yes, there are exceptions, but in general, and especially when it comes to first-time authors or those just beginning careers). This post isn&#8217;t about writing techniques, though. It&#8217;s about the deeper aspects of writing, the emotional stuff, the stuff we couch in skill.<br />
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<p>But how much is too much? What if the story that really excites you is one so out there that the odds of anyone wanting to buy or read it are infinitesimal? I believe fantasy, especially, is a genre with lots of room for growth and change. I believe readers on the whole are a lot smarter than some people give them credit for, and a lot more willing to and capable of stepping onto that ledge and seeing where the writer wants to take them. But if you&#8217;re writing a cannibal romance, you&#8217;re probably going to have a hard time, let&#8217;s face it.</p>
<p>We all know compromise is part of life, or rather, there is an element of compromise in life. We all know that we can stick to our guns, and write that romance where the hero and heroine sit down at the end to a nice big plate of baked human hearts with artichokes and mushrooms, with the freshly slaughtered carcasses stored in their deep freeze, but that may limit our publishing options. You might be able to sell that cannibal love story to a horror publisher or imprint, but it&#8217;s probably not going to fly with genre romance (hey, I could be wrong, this is just my personal feeling). </p>
<p>The problem&#8211;and the fundamental question here&#8211;is, at what point are you compromising too much? What is your work to you; is it stories you write for a laugh and to pay the bills, or is it an expression of yourself? (That&#8217;s not to say stories you write for a laugh and to pay the bills can&#8217;t be an expression of yourself. The difference is in how you view them, to some degree.) In other words, how much do you care about what you write, how much of yourself do you put into it? How deep do you go? How honest are you?</p>
<p>How deep <em>should</em> you go? How much do you need to expose yourself, if at all? How much <em>should</em> you expose yourself?</p>
<p>And how much of your decision is practicality, and how much is fear?</p>
<p>This touches on a larger, more fundamental question, which is whether or not fiction is art and whether or not writers are artists. And whether or not genre fiction is art. I think we&#8217;ll talk about that and the implications of it a bit more later, but we can&#8217;t really have this discussion without at least mentioning it first, so we have some kind of lens to view the discussion through.</p>
<p>My personal feeling is that every writer puts something of themselves into their work, whether they mean to or not. </p>
<p>Writing books is in some ways akin to exposing yourself. You write a book. You pour large parts of yourself into it. The characters may or may not be you&#8211;usually they aren&#8217;t&#8211;but if you&#8217;re really digging deep into the POV character, you are by necessity accessing parts of yourself and putting them on the page, no matter how ugly or embarrassing or painful they may be; no matter how joyous or fun or delightful they may be.</p>
<p>A book is the expression of truth as you see it and experience it. Every moment, every scene, every sentence is you expressing something important to you, no matter what it is. No matter what the plot is, no matter the setting or genre, you&#8217;re telling a story that came from you. <em>You</em> have to be in there; if you&#8217;re not, where and how is the book connected to you and to the rest of the world? If you&#8217;re not, what exactly are you writing, and is it what you really want to write or is it just something you&#8217;re writing to make money? How proud are you, or can you be, of the latter?</p>
<p>I think these are questions that can and do make a lot of people uncomfortable, and I have some thoughts on why, which we&#8217;ll discuss in the next post. But this is what I know. Writing something you really put yourself into is terrifying. Doing anything you really put yourself into is terrifying. And it is that way for a lot of reasons. Writing that way is akin to sharing your deepest secrets with a lot of strangers, and inviting them to poke and prod at your weakest points, your deepest insecurities. There are people out there who will look at your work and decide they know what kind of person you really are because of what you wrote. There are people who will decide that by exposing yourself in your work you have invited them into every other part of your life; look at the types of questions some erotic romance writers are regularly asked about their sex lives. There are people who will hate your book and be unable to separate that from you as a person. There are people who will decide that because you&#8217;ve written a certain type of character or story you deserve to be shamed or shunned; they will confuse you with the work to the extent that not just the work but you yourself become an object of derision, as if you are a book yourself with no feelings. And maybe they shouldn&#8217;t be able to completely separate you; who can really say? If you&#8217;re putting yourself that deeply into your work, are you actually stripping yourself, baring yourself? If they disagree with your truth, don&#8217;t they have a right to say that, and to say it about you and not just your work?</p>
<p>Perhaps eliciting that kind of reaction is a good thing. People may dislike the timid, but they don&#8217;t tend to hate them with such a passion. Maybe if you&#8217;ve done something that makes people that angry, it&#8217;s a good thing. I&#8217;ve never been someone who believes that the purpose of art is to shock or anger. But can we say that if you do shock and anger people, you&#8217;ve obviously touched them on some kind of deep level? And that perhaps an emotional reaction of that depth is the purpose of writing, and thus the purpose of art? </p>
<p>Perhaps if people hate you because of something you&#8217;ve written it&#8217;s because you refused to stay in the box they wanted to put you in. People don&#8217;t like it when you&#8217;re not easy to classify; they don&#8217;t like it when you try to challenge what they expect you to be. There are people in this world who dislike it when others show depth or intellect; there are people who simply cannot handle disagreement with them or the idea that others see things differently, people who are incapable of stepping outside of their own worldviews for a moment. Those people exist in every field, in every country, in every place, all over the world (look at some of the arguments people have over science questions, or politics, or about whether or not Spiderman could beat Iron Man in a fight. I&#8217;m not saying everyone who dislikes or diagrees with something or someone is being small-minded, that&#8217;s not remotely what I mean. I&#8217;m just saying that when you expose yourself and your work, or your theories or opinions, to the wider world, you have to be prepared for all kinds of reactions).</p>
<p>But eliciting that kind of reaction can be terrifying, too. Unnerving. And it&#8217;s something we don&#8217;t always prepare ourselves for. Something I&#8217;m not sure we <em>can</em> prepare ourselves for. No one can predict what kind of reaction a piece of writing or a piece of art&#8211;whether they&#8217;re different things or the same thing&#8211;will get. </p>
<p>The thing is, I don&#8217;t know a single writer who doesn&#8217;t feel emotionally vulnerable about their work, no matter how light-hearted the work is. I don&#8217;t know a single writer who doesn&#8217;t feel, after writing an intense scene or finishing a novel, as if they&#8217;ve just spent several hours being psychoanalyzed and poked with sticks. No, our characters are not us. But if our books are the expression of truth as we see them, if our books are expressions of ourselves, then we have exposed ourselves. If we&#8217;ve been honest in our work then we have essentially invited strangers into our minds and hearts, into our psyches, and invited them to rummage around a bit.</p>
<p>We&#8217;re trying to connect with people. We&#8217;re trying to connect with readers. We&#8217;re trying to share an experience with them, make them think and feel, and do it in the most honest way we can. (We&#8217;re trying to entertain them first and foremost, of course, but this is about the deeper aspects of our work.) We want them to connect emotionally with what we&#8217;ve written; there is no greater compliment than to be told by a reader that your work made them cry (um, assuming it was a sad or emotional scene, of course. It&#8217;s not a compliment if your light comedy made a reader cry through its sheer awfulness. Nobody wants a reader to put down their book, drop to their knees, and scream, &#8220;Why is life so terrible?!&#8221;)</p>
<p>Isn&#8217;t creating something with the intent to elicit an emotional response in someone else, art? Isn&#8217;t that the purpose of art?</p>
<p>And if it is, why do we so often shy away from calling it that?</p>
<p>We&#8217;re going to talk about that on Thursday.</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>Yesterday on Twitter&#8211;I guess for the last couple of days&#8211;there&#8217;s been a discussion going on regarding agents, and how they&#8217;re paid, and how that affects their work. And then it morphed or branched off into a discussion about advances and&#8230;</p>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Yesterday on Twitter&#8211;I guess for the last couple of days&#8211;there&#8217;s been a discussion going on regarding agents, and how they&#8217;re paid, and how that affects their work. And then it morphed or branched off into a discussion about advances and whether or not writers would accept a no-advance model, and the end result seems to be another one of those discussions where everyone sits around like mummers at a Victorian funeral and tells us The Publishing Sky Is Falling, and it&#8217;s The End Of Publishing As We Know It, etc. etc. etc. </p>
<p>And you know, I understand that to an extent. It&#8217;s scary. The economy is scary. Hell, everything is scary right now; our ocean is filling with oil and all anybody with the power to do something seems interested in doing is pointing fingers and sitting around talking and whatever. There have been earthquakes and tornados and volcanos and shit all over the world. Am I terrified that the world is ending? Honestly? Kinda, yeah. But then, I&#8217;m a bit of a pessimist when it comes to this sort of thing; I&#8217;m the only person I know who is terrified of outer space and doesn&#8217;t even like seeing pictures of it because it reminds me that the earth is this one small rock floating in nothingness and something could go wrong at any second and we could start plummeting, but there&#8217;s nothing to land on so we would just keep plummeting through the darkness forever. That&#8217;s not a pleasant thought.</p>
<p>It probably won&#8217;t happen, either. But I wonder if I start insisting often enough that it will, and get a bunch of people to also start talking about it and how the earth&#8217;s field of gravity is thinning, people will start to believe it.</p>
<p>Because it seems to me that everyone is talking about the demise of publishing, but there&#8217;s actually no real evidence that it&#8217;s dying. Everyone is claiming that ebooks will be the death of publishing, but I honestly don&#8217;t understand that at all; how is providing books in another format for people who like that format killing publishing? (Aside from the issue of piracy, which don&#8217;t even get me started on.) Aren&#8217;t we hearing about people buying <em>more</em> books now that they&#8217;re started reading ebooks?</p>
<p>I know a lot of it is just to get website hits, or because people have a specific axe to grind. And you know, none of us are without bias. I certainly don&#8217;t want to see publishing die, because it&#8217;s how I make my living. I don&#8217;t want to see us all switch to self-publishing, for reasons I&#8217;ve stated many times before but will recap quickly:</p>
<p>1. Ease of finding something worth reading (low when trying to go through thousands &#038; thousands of self-published books with no quality control or vetting process)</p>
<p>2. Ease of publishing (sure, right now you can go to Lulu and set up a book for free; it&#8217;s what Jim Macdonald did for me with the Strumpet book. But do you really think if publishing fails, and self-publishing becomes the norm, those companies won&#8217;t start charging, or charging more?)</p>
<p>To be perfectly honest, my feeling is and has always been that if publishing &#8220;dies,&#8221; and everyone is self-publishing, you&#8217;ll soon have people offering to vet books for other people. You&#8217;ll have someone who realizes they can make some money by taking the best books out there and printing them for a cut of the money, and setting up some sort of nationwide distribution, and&#8230;lookie there, you&#8217;ve just reinvented a publishing house.</p>
<p>When people want a book to read, they want a book to read. They do not want to spend hours hunting around for something readable. (Don&#8217;t believe it will take hours, or be difficult? Here&#8217;s a site where people can post shirt stories for free, called <a href="http://www.bibliofaction.com/">Bibliofaction</a>. It&#8217;s a nice site; it&#8217;s a fun idea. And I don&#8217;t link to it to pick on or put down any of the stories posted there; I link to it to show you how much there is on just that one site, and what a variety of quality there is too.) </p>
<p>Now I&#8217;m veering off into my big self-publishing rant again, and I&#8217;ve already covered that, so I don&#8217;t want to do it again. What I do want to say is that yes, times are a bit hard right now. Yes, I&#8217;m seeing good writers whose series don&#8217;t get to go on because sales that would have been good enough three years ago aren&#8217;t anymore, or if they do get contracted for more books their advances are lower. It&#8217;s awful and it&#8217;s sad.</p>
<p>But for every series that doesn&#8217;t do so well, there are series that are big hits and make tons of money. I&#8217;m tired of seeing that ignored. I&#8217;m tired of seeing specious statistics bandied about all the time, like the &#8220;95% of published books don&#8217;t sell more than 500 copies,&#8221; which sounds terrifying until you realize that the people who came up with that statistic were including every single book published, including self-published books, technical manuals, employee guidebooks, specialist textbooks, souvenir books, and whatever else. The idea that most NY published books sell less than 500 copies is simply incorrect.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.publishers.org/main/PressCenter/Archicves/2010_April/BookSalesEstimatedat23.9Billionin2009.htm">This study by The Association of American Publishers</a> estimates the publishing industry sold $23.9 BILLION worth of books in 2009. Yes, that&#8217;s down almost two percent from 2008 (although apparently in the last seven years overall it&#8217;s grown), but when you consider how the economy took a swim in Lake Shitty in early-mid 2008 especially, that&#8217;s really not that bad, is it? How much have other industries lost? If we can use <a href="http://money.cnn.com/2009/05/01/news/companies/auto_sales/?postversion=2009050116">this CNN article</a> as any indicator, auto industry sales/profits dropped about 30%. <a href="http://www.freddiemac.com/news/archives/rates/2010/4qhpi09.html">Freddie Mac says home prices fell almost five percent in 2009 (it was a much bigger percentage in &#8217;08).</a></p>
<p>Yes, it&#8217;s a scary time right now. Yes, we&#8217;re all watching it and keeping an eye on what&#8217;s happening. Yes, advances aren&#8217;t as high as they once were&#8211;at least so I understand. But we&#8217;re still getting deals. We&#8217;re still getting advances. Every day.</p>
<p>But that doesn&#8217;t mean we all need to start desperately casting around for some other way to earn a living, or start pontificating on how publishing is &#8220;broken&#8221; and it&#8217;s the end for it. It&#8217;s not. As long as people want to read books, there will be publishing. Quite frankly, for all the &#8220;publishing is dying&#8221; talk I hear online, it seems to be pretty limited to online; the average person&#8211;the average reader&#8211;has no idea this discussion is happening, and they care even less. And why should they? The only thing readers should&#8211;or should be <em>expected</em> to&#8211;care about is that they get books they want to read when they want to read them and in the format in which they want them, at an affordable price. (Readers are of course welcome to care more about it if they want, but it&#8217;s certainly not a requirement, is my point. I don&#8217;t want to bore my readers with talk about how my life will end if they don&#8217;t buy my books and I&#8217;ll end up selling matches on the street and how expensive everything is&#8211;like they don&#8217;t know that&#8211;and how I really need their help or whatever. As I&#8217;ve said here before, entertaining readers is my job. Yes, I want and expect to be paid for it, but beyond that they have zero obligation to me, and I certainly don&#8217;t expect them to give a shit about my financial situation. Remember how I&#8217;d rather not have people buy my books because I nagged them into it? Yeah. I&#8217;d rather they not buy them because I guilted them into it, either. I&#8217;m fucking lucky I get to write books for a living, and I try not to forget that and act like it&#8217;s some kind of burden.)</p>
<p>Anyway.</p>
<p>Whether the agent commission goes up to 20%, as the lovely Victoria Strauss <a href="http://accrispin.blogspot.com/2010/06/are-agents-underpaid.html">suggests in this post</a> (which also links back to me, making a nifty linky circuit), or whether more agents branch out into different areas of the business, or whatever&#8230;I think reports of publishing&#8217;s death are greatly exaggerated, and to be perfectly frank I&#8217;m tired of hearing about it. I don&#8217;t know if that&#8217;s me being sensible or being ostrich-like, but I&#8217;m tired of constantly feeling like the sword of Damocles dangles over all of our heads. I&#8217;m tired of feeling like there are crowds of people rubbing their hands together gleefully and waiting for publishing to fail, for whatever reason; I don&#8217;t understand it, as I don&#8217;t see why anyone would want to have to wade through slush for hours, but people can certainly do what they like. </p>
<p>I refuse to feel that way anymore. I refuse to listen to alarmists and bone-pickers. Will I keep in mind that things are tough all over? Absolutely. Will I remember how tight money is? Again, absolutely. </p>
<p>And I will use that knowledge to inspire me to write more and better books, to challenge myself more, to not take sales for granted but to remember that I need to push myself to be great, to be outstanding, to put everything I have into my work. I&#8217;ll use that knowledge to inspire me to write bigger stories, bigger worlds, bigger characters; to remember that &#8220;good enough&#8221; isn&#8217;t good enough. And so even if I don&#8217;t achieve that greatness and never get to be outstanding I at least wasn&#8217;t lazy. At least I tried. At least I didn&#8217;t forget that what it ultimately comes down to are readers, and what they want, and that my job is to try to give it to them, to impress and entertain them and make them think and feel.</p>
<p>So everyone else can sit around in the doom-and-gloom corner and decide the end is coming and there&#8217;s nothing we can do about it. I&#8217;ll be over here writing more books. </p>
<p>Because that&#8217;s what I do.</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>John Scalzi is traveling, or rather, is about to stop traveling. So he emailed me this morning to see if it was okay to delay my Big Idea post by a day. So look for that tomorrow!</p>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>John Scalzi is traveling, or rather, is about to stop traveling. So he emailed me this morning to see if it was okay to delay my Big Idea post by a day. So look for that tomorrow!</p>
<p>Also, an interesting <a href="http://www.staciakane.net/2010/05/18/boy-books-and-girl-books/#comment-7854">comment came in the other day on my Boy Books and Girl Books? post</a>. The commenter pointed out that perhaps one reason why men eschew urban fantasy is because the covers seem to portray women who don&#8217;t need men, who even actively put down men.</p>
<p>The commenter also mention how James Bond covers, for example, show Bond in active poses with women in them, and posited that if UF covers showed women in active poses with men around them they might appeal more to men.</p>
<p>Which I think is an interesting comment, certainly. I still think it&#8217;s sad; it still makes me angry that books marketed toward women or with female MCs are automatically dismissed by men. And I still find it kind of hard to understand; as I said in that post, it can&#8217;t be that men don&#8217;t like to read books with women in them. It can&#8217;t be that men dislike sex. And I have a hard time believing that men just plain don&#8217;t like to read about love stories; not only do I know men who read romance&#8211;and I think that&#8217;s awesome&#8211;most men I know do genuinely want to find love, or are married or in committed relationships and are very happy. So I wonder if the commenter is right. Does the way UF is marketed automatically drive men away? Does it almost present a sort of no-men-allowed kind of look?</p>
<p>It&#8217;s a real shame, if so. Men already miss out on some great stories in genre romance, simply because they don&#8217;t think to pick one up and give it a try. It would be sad to see them missing out on great stories in other genres as well.</p>
<p>My point here isn&#8217;t to say men and their opinions are the most important. It&#8217;s just that I do get tired of seeing UF dismissed and put down, often by people who&#8217;ve never tried it, or who tried one and decided they&#8217;re all exactly like that one, when in fact there&#8217;s a lot of variety in the genre (and in genre romance, as well). I do think it&#8217;s shameful that &#8220;girl books&#8221; is a put-down. As I said in my previous post, so what if it&#8217;s about women, or marketed toward women? So what if it has a love story in it, or sex? Why does that mean it&#8217;s okay to insult it? It isn&#8217;t, and it shouldn&#8217;t be. </p>
<p>A woman who refuses to read books marketed mainly toward men, or see films marketed mainly toward men, or consume media aimed mainly toward men, is going to have a hard time finding books to read (outside of those genres) or films to see, or media to consume. (It actually reminds me of the &#8220;News for Women&#8221; segment that a news station in Miami used to run, and how it infuriated me, not only by implying that regular news wasn&#8217;t something for women, but that women were only interested in diets and cooking, and that men had no interest in such things at all.) I remember reading an article somewhere once about why women&#8217;s magazines are as successful as they are, and part of it was because those magazines are some of the few media outlets aimed at and coming from a woman&#8217;s viewpoint.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m not sure our viewpoints are so different, really. I think we&#8217;re all individuals. And I&#8217;m tired of stereotypes. I&#8217;m tired of women&#8217;s writing being dismissed as &#8220;just a chick book,&#8221; as if that automatically makes it inferior. If you don&#8217;t like a genre, that&#8217;s fine, but to say you dislike it because it&#8217;s a gender thing is just kind of lazy and offensive. I&#8217;m tired of books aimed at women, like romance or like many UFs, being dismissed.</p>
<p>And you know, I think men in general are better than that. Don&#8217;t you? Give it a try, men! Read something different, for fun. See how you like it, and what you learn from it. Decide for yourself what you think. Try a couple of them. Get some recommendations from people. You might find you enjoy it a lot more than you thought you would, and you might realize that just because something is marketed toward women, or has a romance story in it or sex or whatever, doesn&#8217;t actually mean it isn&#8217;t worthwhile and good.</p>
<p>Because it doesn&#8217;t. </p>
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		<title>Boy Books and Girl Books?</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 18 May 2010 19:36:34 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Stace</dc:creator>
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<p>I&#8217;m sure you&#8217;re probably getting sick of seeing my reviews, but I do have another quick one to share. From WickedlilPixie at <a href="http://wickedlilpixie.com/2010/05/18/unholy-ghosts-stacia-kane/">Writings of a Wicked Book Addict</a>:</p>
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<p>I&#8217;m sure you&#8217;re probably getting sick of seeing my reviews, but I do have another quick one to share. From WickedlilPixie at <a href="http://wickedlilpixie.com/2010/05/18/unholy-ghosts-stacia-kane/">Writings of a Wicked Book Addict</a>:</p>
<blockquote><p><em>Unholy Ghosts</em> is the first book in Stacia Kane’s Downside Series &#038; it was phenomenal! It is one of the most grittiest, in your face Urban Fantasies I’ve ever read &#038; I loved it&#8230;If you read one new Urban Fantasy series, make it <em>Unholy Ghosts</em>.</p></blockquote>
<p>So something I&#8217;ve been thinking about for a while, as you guys know, is what urban fantasy truly is as a genre, and where it&#8217;s going, and how my books fit into it. (Remember the <a href="http://www.staciakane.net/2009/03/05/the-books-are-out-there/">The Books Are Out There</a> post?</p>
<p>And of course we&#8217;re now exactly one week away from the official release date of UNHOLY GHOSTS. And I&#8217;m wondering how people will respond to it, whether they&#8217;ll love it or hate it, whether the darkness will be too much for them, whether they&#8217;ll accept a drug addict as a heroine, all of those things that I worried and wondered about even as I wrote it. </p>
<p>But here&#8217;s the thing. I feel like urban fantasy has, as a genre, been somehow relegated to the &#8220;Girl&#8221; section. It&#8217;s been dismissed as &#8220;Girl books.&#8221; And many guys really do seem to think this way. I&#8217;ve seen a lot of them in various places referring to UF as &#8220;just paranormal romance with a little more action,&#8221; or &#8220;hot girl in leather solves mystery, sleeps with paranormal creatures.&#8221;</p>
<p>And honestly? I think to some extent that&#8217;s true. No, hear me out. Other worlds and paranormal creatures do tend to be a big part of urban fantasy. The heroines often have sex (mine certainly do) and it&#8217;s often with paranormal creatures (Megan sleeps with a demon, for example, but in Chess&#8217;s world the only paranormal creatures are ghosts, and they don&#8217;t really make good bed partners, what with the trying to kill you and all).<br />
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<p>But I don&#8217;t see where that&#8217;s necessarily a problem. Why is it that as soon as romance and/or sex become genre tropes, that genre is automatically consigned to the Girl Ghetto, and judged to be &#8220;not <em>real</em>,&#8221; (as in &#8220;not real fantasy&#8221;) or &#8220;not as good.&#8221; Why is it that just saying it&#8217;s &#8220;for girls&#8221; automatically has such a negative connotation?</p>
<p>That&#8217;s not how urban fantasy started, and it&#8217;s not all there is to the genre. But even if it was, I don&#8217;t see what the problem is. Do men dislike reading about sex? Somehow I doubt it. Do men have a problem reading about hot chicks? Again, somehow I doubt it. So what is it? Why has urban fantasy become essentially chick-lit fantasy, and something men automatically avoid?</p>
<p>I think in part it&#8217;s because it&#8217;s considered &#8220;not manly&#8221; somehow to like books where there&#8217;s an emotional story s well as the main story, and where that emotional story is given a place of importance. Personally, I think that&#8217;s crap. Fantasy readers are supposed to be smarter than that, and less worried about what other people think of them. I get incredibly sick and tired of the idea that fantasy is only for boys, that comics are only for boys, that science fiction is only for boys, that shows like Doctor Who are only for boys, that fandom is only for boys, that comic conventions are only for boys. Who put them in charge?</p>
<p>You could make the argument that for years they&#8217;re the ones who kept various fandoms going. (I&#8217;ll never forget the movie Trekkies, when they interviewed some guys who did an annual birthday party for Captain Kirk [if memory serves] and one of the guys said, &#8220;Last year we even had a girl come.&#8221; Ouch.) And you know what, if that&#8217;s true, then I can see the resentment, at least to some extent. I really can. Nobody likes to see a genre or subculture or whatever to which they&#8217;ve given their time, attention, care, and support suddenly get co-opted and turned into some big huge thing. It&#8217;s irritating when those same people who laughed at you or spit at you or beat you up or called you names five years before are suddenly acting like they&#8217;re your best friends and always have been. I&#8217;ve been there.</p>
<p>But I&#8217;d really think that men would welcome women. If nothing else, it greatly increases their chances of getting laid, right? And nobody&#8217;s saying they can&#8217;t still have their boy-only gatherings. Just that it would be nice if they&#8217;d stop actively and loudly resenting the women, and dismissing them, and poking fun at them, and basically doing to them what many people in the past have done to them. It&#8217;s not right, and it&#8217;s not fair.</p>
<p>My love of fantasy came from my brother, who was way into D&#038;D. He&#8217;s five years older than me, so at the age he was really getting into role-playing games and Lord of the Rings, I was seven. He used to test some of his new games on me, and occasionally I&#8217;d just ask to play one with him, because it was neat. I liked being a tough girl warrior; I liked inventing new characters and writing them up on sheets of graph paper. We watched LOTR, the animated Bakshi version, almost every day. For like a year. We read Warlord comics and I became obsessed with them; I had a huge crush on Travis Morgan, and wanted to go to Skartaris so bad it hurt. I wanted to own the Hellfire sword!</p>
<p>And you know, I bet there are a lot of women out there who had similar experiences. Or, as in the case of both my daughters, had parents who were very into that stuff, and so were raised with it. My girls collect Justice league action figures, and they can name every member. They read comics. They watch Doctor Who with us (and that&#8217;s another show that earned lots of grumbles and ire when a romantic subplot was introduced). They love the Superman and Batman animated series. I fully expect that will continue as they grow up, and I hope they find when that happens that they&#8217;ll be welcomed by everyone, that they won&#8217;t be looked at as &#8220;she&#8217;s just here because her boyfriend is here,&#8221; or &#8220;now we&#8217;re going to have to add kissing to everything,&#8221; or whatever.</p>
<p>But I&#8217;m straying from the point. Yes, there is a lot of urban fantasy that has sex with paranormal creatures. But there&#8217;s a lot that doesn&#8217;t too. There&#8217;s a lot written by men (I consider both Charles de Lint and Neil Gaiman to be urban fantasy). There&#8217;s a lot that deals with complex moral issues, that makes you think, that asks questions. </p>
<p>That&#8217;s what I was going for when I wrote UNHOLY GHOSTS, in fact, and I hope I succeeded. I wanted to write the kind of fantasy I wanted to read, something dark and gritty and tough, something morally ambiguous, something that wasn&#8217;t filled with beautiful people being slick and cool, but with people struggling to get by, people who weren&#8217;t perfect. I&#8217;ve been told by several men who&#8217;ve read it that they loved it. Ironically, in fact, the only negative comments I&#8217;ve seen about it have all come from women, who have issues with the drug use, or think the world is too dark, or whatever. The men seem to like it because it&#8217;s not a stereotypical creature-sex-and-snark urban fantasy, and the few women who haven&#8217;t liked it seemed to dislike it because it&#8217;s not a stereotypical creature-sex-and-snark urban fantasy. And hey, to each his or her own; nobody&#8217;s going to like everything all the time, and I&#8217;d much rather write a book that inspires passion and thinking than one people just sort of shrug about, and forget five minutes after they&#8217;ve finished it. Although what this says about my &#8220;UF isn&#8217;t just for girls, and it isn&#8217;t just thinly veiled paranormal romance&#8221; topic here I don&#8217;t know.</p>
<p>My Demons books were very close to paranormal romance. I still don&#8217;t think they were, because ultimately they were Megan&#8217;s stories, and about how she came to accept herself and the changes in her life, and ultimately she was the one who had to defeat the Big Bads. But I freely acknowledge, and did when they were released, that they skirted the line between paranormal romance and urban fantasy. The Downside books really don&#8217;t. Yes, there&#8217;s a romantic subplot, but it&#8217;s a small part of the series (it gets more attention in the third book, but if the series continues I expect the third book will still be the most romance-heavy of the series; I don&#8217;t have any plans for it to get any more romantic). </p>
<p>In writing the Downside books I wanted to stretch the limits of urban fantasy. I wanted to return to its roots. I want to raise questions and examine issues. I wanted to make people think. Because I think that&#8217;s what great urban fantasy can do, and what it should do. I think it&#8217;s an amazing genre, one that can really turn a bright light on society and humanity and expose the underbellies, both the good and the bad. So it makes me sad to see that it&#8217;s become a genre (or subgenre, really) so easily dismissed as &#8220;sex with vampires.&#8221; It makes me sad to see men automatically turning away from it because they think&#8211;many times without even having read one, or having just read one they grabbed at random&#8211;that that&#8217;s all the genre is, and so they put it down and decide it&#8217;s just for those wimpy, sappy girls who need material for their sexual fantasies (as if the preponderance of incredibly&#8211;and improbably&#8211;large-breasted women with teeny tiny waists and Callipygian asses has nothing to do with male sexual fantasies). In saying all of this I certainly don&#8217;t mean to imply that mine are the only urban fantasies that do this, of course. There are many that do. I&#8217;m just saying what my specific goal was.</p>
<p>This is turning into an incredibly long post, and I really should wrap it up. So I&#8217;d like to know what you think. Do you think urban fantasy deserves its reputation as just chick books? Why do you think men avoid it or put it down? How do you think that could change, or do you think that could change? Or do you have any other thoughts?</p>
<p>Feel free to comment anonymously if you like. Either way I&#8217;d love to hear what you think.</p>
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		<title>It&#8217;s just upsetting</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 07 May 2010 21:07:29 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Stace</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>Some of you may have heard that the Waxman Agency, a legitimate, highly respected literary agency with an excellent reputation, has decided to open an epublishing imprint of its own. No, you didn&#8217;t read that incorrectly. It&#8217;s an agency deciding&#8230;</p>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Some of you may have heard that the Waxman Agency, a legitimate, highly respected literary agency with an excellent reputation, has decided to open an epublishing imprint of its own. No, you didn&#8217;t read that incorrectly. It&#8217;s an agency deciding to set up a publishing arm.</p>
<p>This has, as you can imagine, sparked a bit of controversy in the literary world.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m going to blog about it, because I feel like I should. But I&#8217;m not entirely comfortable doing it, to be honest. I don&#8217;t like doing it. I am, to put it mildly, in a bit of an moral dilemma here, and I need to decide if my ethical standards are really that strong, and I&#8217;ve decided that they are. I&#8217;ve taken a stand on this situation in the past and would be a hypocrite not to do the same again; I&#8217;ve presented myself&#8211;and worked hard to make myself&#8211;someone who helps other writers and offers advice, and I would be a hypocrite not to speak out now.</p>
<p>Here&#8217;s the thing. Waxman is, as I said above, and excellent agency. I know a few people&#8211;one I consider a good friend&#8211;who are repped by Holly Root there. Holly is a fantastic agent. Her clients love her, and she does a great job for them. And up until yesterday I had no compunction at all recommending her to any of my friends who were looking for representation.</p>
<p>But I can&#8217;t do that anymore, and that makes me sad.<br />
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<p>See, there&#8217;s this organization called the <a href="http://aaronline.org/">Association of Author&#8217;s Representatives (AAR)</a>. They&#8217;re basically the professional organization for literary agents; they have strict standards for becoming a member agent, and a <a href="http://aaronline.org/canon">Canon of Ethics</a> which is designed to make sure that standards in the industry stay at a certain level, and that authors can query AAR member agents with confidence. This Canon reads in part:</p>
<blockquote><p>We pledge ourselves to loyal service to our clients&#8217; business and artistic needs. We  allow no conflict of interest that would interfere with such service.</p></blockquote>
<p>and</p>
<blockquote><p>Member&#8217;s compensation for all transactions shall be derived solely from the client. A member who represents a client in the grant of rights in any property owned or controlled by the client may not accept any other form of compensation or other payment from the acquirer of such rights. Members shall not represent both buyer and seller in the same transaction.</p></blockquote>
<p>In other words, an agent can&#8217;t represent both the writer and the publisher in one transaction, and an agency shouldn&#8217;t have any sort of conflict of interest, such as would occur when, say, they own the publisher they&#8217;re selling their client to.</p>
<p>Now, before we go any further I need to make something extremely clear. There is not a doubt in my mind that the Waxman Literary Agency and all of its member agents are good and decent people who will do their best for their clients. Not a doubt. I don&#8217;t think they&#8217;re scammers. I don&#8217;t think they&#8217;re doing this to cheat their clients or other writers. I don&#8217;t think this means in any way that they won&#8217;t still try to sell their clients&#8217; mss to NY houses as hard and as effectively as they can. Absolutely NOT.</p>
<p>But I still think this is a breach of ethics, and a serious problem, for several reasons.</p>
<p>The first&#8230;well, historical romance writer <a href="http://www.courtneymilan.com/ramblings/2010/05/07/on-self-dealing/">Courtney Milan</a> has already said it quite eloquently. Go read her post. I&#8217;ll wait here. She addresses the conflict of interest extremely well, and for me to do so would just be redundant.</p>
<p>The second is based on <a href="http://www.theresameyers.com/blog/index.php/2010/04/28/introducing-diversion-books-an-exclusive-interview-with-scott-waxman/">this interview with Scott Waxman about the project</a>, on Theresa Meyers&#8217;s blog. In it Mr. Waxman&#8211;who seems like a very nice, very professional man&#8211;talks about the venture, and his reasons for it. </p>
<p>But the thing is, as we&#8217;ve learned, and and has been discussed in the past here and elsewhere, epublishing is not like &#8220;regular&#8221; publishing. It&#8217;s a specialized industry, with its own rules. Experience and knowledge in print publishing absolutely does not necessarily translate (Quartet Publishing, anyone? Ravenous Romance?) As I&#8217;ve said here before, ebook readers tend to stay with particular ebook houses. That may be changing a bit with the advent of the Kindle and the Nook, but the advent of the Kindle and the Nook also mean that readers have a lot more options for ebooks.</p>
<p>In the interview, Mr. Waxman says:</p>
<blockquote><p>We also have a strong focus on original content whereas it seems that the majority of epublishers are looking for out of print or classic eBook rights. </p></blockquote>
<p>I have to be honest here; I have no idea what he&#8217;s talking about. I don&#8217;t even know of any ebook publishers who primarily publish reprints. I do know dozens of ebook publishers who publish new, original content every day, or every other day, or twice a week depending on their release schedule. I&#8217;m terribly confused as to how anyone could research the ebook industry and not have seen all of those publishers.</p>
<p>He also says:</p>
<blockquote><p>I like the opportunity the eBook format presents to the author. There’s a sense of being able to control your own destiny for projects that the big houses don’ t want to bother with. I’ve been at this long enough to trust my own instincts on a book. So, just because a publisher says it’s “too small”, we can now attempt to prove them wrong and still make a go of it.</p></blockquote>
<p>Which sounds great, and like I said, I honestly believe he thinks he&#8217;s doing the absolute best for his clients. But why start up an epublishing imprint, thus creating a conflict of interest and a breach of AAR ethics? Why not submit your clients to an existing epublisher, or small press? Just as there are dozens of established epublishers out there with ready customer bases, there are dozens of established small presses out there, with budgets and distribution and skilled editors and all of those other things. Why not submit to them, if the project isn&#8217;t right for NY? Isn&#8217;t an agent is supposed to keep trying until the project sells, even if it&#8217;s to a smaller house? It&#8217;s confusing, and I&#8217;m sure it&#8217;s simply worded badly in the interview, but I find the whole concept disturbing.</p>
<p>The fact is, this is a newbie epublisher, and as a newbie epublisher the chance that it will fail is something like 60%; the chance that it will actually make good money for its authors is way, way lower. So simply from a business stance, it&#8217;s something I would and do warn writers away from. The epublishing world is already crowded. When is the last time a new ehouse opened and became very successful? Samhain is the last one I can think of, and that was in, what, 2006? I know several have opened since then, but none have been really successful; most have closed and those that haven&#8217;t sort of limp along in writers-buying-each-others&#8217;-books-obscurity.</p>
<p>Which leads me to my last objection, and it&#8217;s the big one.</p>
<p>In March 2000, a self-proclaimed &#8220;literary agent&#8221; named Dorothy Deering was sentenced to 46 months in federal prison for defrauding hundreds of &#8220;clients&#8221; by, essentially, selling their manuscripts to a &#8220;publisher&#8221; she owned. (In reality &#8220;Sovereign House&#8221; was just a front, but the fact remains that she sold her clients&#8211;on paper at least&#8211;to a vanity press she herself owned, and charged them for the privilege.) You can read a short case study of it <a href="http://www.sfwa.org/for-authors/writer-beware/cases/#Deering">here,</a> or buy the (excellent) book about the case, <a href="http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Ten-Percent-of-Nothing/Jim-Fisher/e/9780809325757/?itm=1&#038;USRI=ten+percent+of+nothing">Ten Percent of Nothing by Jim Fisher</a>.</p>
<p>And there have been others, less wealthy and successful, perhaps, but others. There continue to be others. The wonderful folks at <a href="http://www.sfwa.org/for-authors/writer-beware/">Writer Beware</a> keep a running list of them, and of course they&#8217;re often discussed in the Bewares, Recommendations, and Background Checks forum at Absolute Write (linked in the sidebar). I&#8217;m a moderator at AW and have been a member for years now. And it is absolutely amazing to me, shocking to me, how many scam agents there are out there. Agents who charge reading fees. Agents who charge other fees. Agents who sell their clients to vanity publishers (for, you got it, a fee).</p>
<p><strong>Waxman is NOT a scam</strong>. Not, not, not. But when legitimate agencies do things like this, it makes it harder for writers to protect themselves from scams, because it makes it harder for those of us who try to help them.</p>
<p>How? Let me explain. When a scam agency sets itself up, it doesn&#8217;t come out and tell people&#8211;potential victims&#8211;that it&#8217;s a scam. The principals make shit up. They lie about sales or claim that information is &#8220;confidential.&#8221; They tell potential victims that &#8220;everyone charges fees.&#8221; Or, sometimes, they claim that &#8220;lots of agents are publishers too&#8221; or &#8220;lots of agencies change their own clients to publish&#8221; or &#8220;lots of authors start in self-publishing,&#8221; in order to convince their clients to sign those vanity deals they get kickbacks for. They tell them NO agents can afford to support themselves purely on commission, and that ALL agents have other ways&#8211;like starting their own publishers&#8211;to bring in cash. </p>
<p>So when a legitimate agency does something like this, it gives extra ammunition to every scammer out there. It&#8217;s like manna from Heaven for those who would defraud writers, those who would lie and cheat and steal from them, and sell them dreams plated with cheap fake gold. Now every scam agent out there can point to the Waxman agency, and say, &#8220;See? That agency, a big New York agency, tells its clients to self-publish first, and they own the publisher! That&#8217;ll be $2000.00, please.&#8221;</p>
<p>Of course Waxman isn&#8217;t charging its clients to publish with their imprint; I would never presume such a thing and don&#8217;t mean to imply it in any way, shape, or form. But the fact remains that they&#8217;ve just made it easier for every literary scammer in the world to line their pockets. </p>
<p>Yes, we can still tell writers not to query anyone who charges a fee. Or without disclosed sales (an agent who simply crows about &#8220;Made a sale!&#8221; without saying to whom is an agent to be avoided, generally; its very easy for a scammer to set up a blog, and indeed the Writer Beware blog has caught several scammers doing just that, including setting up fake blogs for their &#8220;clients&#8221; to celebrate these nonexistent &#8220;sales&#8221;).</p>
<p>But an agent who owns a publishing imprint? We can no longer use that as a clear-cut signal that the agent isn&#8217;t legitimate and won&#8217;t get you real NY sales. And THAT more than anything else makes me feel sad, and ill, and very, very sorry, and I feel terrible about the whole thing.  </p>
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